“Forgive, sounds good
Forget, I’m not sure I could
They say time heals everything
But, I’m still waiting”
The words penned by the Dixie Chicks back in 2009 were prescient then and now. Everyone has experienced a broken relationship and can relate. Odds highly favor, you are either coming out of or in the middle of a broken or strained relationship. Relationships between allies, countries, families, couples and friends are in a fragile state.
The problem isn’t always that we have been wronged. We have started letting our differences become issues that can break and divide us. We seem to have stopped focusing on what unites us and are letting the differences wound and break our relations. We need reconciliation across the board and the globe.
Reconciliation means to re-establish a relationship. The songwriters above said it bluntly, “I’m not ready to make nice. I can’t bring myself to do what it is you think I should.” The bumper sticker says, “CoExist”. Being on the same planet with each other is easy. Living in harmony is more difficult. Reestablishing relations with each other is the most difficult.
Someone has to set the example and show the way. Political leaders say they will cross the aisle but only give it lip service. Married couples stay together and ignore the problem for the sake of the kids. Siblings decide to only see each other at holidays. Organizations fire the problem and hire someone else. Church members start attending a few miles away. The government slaps a company on the wrist with a fine. Folks, this isn’t dealing with a problem and reconciling an issue, it’s running from it and kicking the can down the road.
Christians have to take it a step further and are held to a much higher standard. Christians are told to skip the band aid and heal the wound. “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the alter and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the alter. First, go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.” Matthew 5:23.
Scripture says to be concerned that a brother has something against YOU. The song lyrics highlighted part of the problem…I,I,I. If it’s all about me then I will be more prone to break away from you for the slightest of reasons. It’s much easier if I’m only concerned with my part of the equation. But, if God has given us “the ministry of reconciliation” (2 Corinthians 5:18) then it’s another story.
God wants to use you to make an appeal to each other with a message of reconciliation. “And He has committed to us the message of reconciliation.” Ephesians 5:19. “Committed’ doesn’t leave a lot of wiggle room. He also made it a blanket reconciliation. Don’t just reconcile with those who really put the hurt on you. Don’t reconcile only when it’s convenient. If you’ve ever wondered what your purpose or ministry is, start with reconciliation.
Our differences don’t have to harm each other. You don’t need a safe zone just because you are different from someone else. External, worldly differences should not divide. Don’t regard anyone from a worldly point of view, that’s in 2nd Corinthians as well. Don’t see each other as a Democrat or Republican, gay or straight, tatted up or not. Listen and LOOK for the heart. See the spirit and hear the love, or lack of.
Families are dividing over politics. Marriages are breaking up because spouses won’t reconcile with their past. It’s no longer a particular grievance or wrong against us, it’s a principle or a choice we don’t agree with. It’s not just the color of your skin anymore. We are too quick to view each other from a
worldly perspective and not an eternal one. If we don’t reconcile with our differences the consequences are far reaching for all parties involved.
We are “being built together to become a dwelling in which God lives by his Spirit.” Ephesians 2:22. If we are just ignoring and putting off the issues that keep us from reestablishing relations with each other, aren’t we just ignoring and putting off God? You may have made an eternal decision for your soul but do your actions show it? Do your relationships prove or disprove it?
Let’s make it real simple. Look at the metrics of your relationships. Do you have more or less relationships today than last year? Are your current relationships with people who only support your beliefs, candidates and lifestyle? Have you broken and not reestablished relations with people who didn’t perform the way you wanted them to? Who and what do you NEED to reconcile with? A person, a group, a church, your God?
The lyrics in the song continue…
“It’s too late to make it right
I probably wouldn’t if I could”
Don’t let these be the lyrics of your life. Make sure your relationships reflect your heart and your beliefs. Write the lyrics of your life everyday. It’s NEVER too late to make it right. It’s never too late to reconcile.
